Closure

A most curious and interesting phenomenon took place over the weekend. I received requests from two clients to communicate with their deceased parents to seek closure and exchange last words with them. In other words, to have the farewell conversation that they never had.

The first client was tearful throughout our session. His father lapsed into unconsciousness after contracting pneumonia and before he slipped away into oblivion, his last words to his son were obtuse but implied that he finally knew what his son had been trying to tell him all along about his siblings and their hidden agenda. True to those words, soon after his death, my client’s family descended into a feud over the division of the patriarch’s assets. 

As the closest child, my client was cut up inside from missing his father and being accused of not honouring his father’s dying wishes. In our reading, my client’s father came forward and affirmed his identity by showing me his facial features and his attire in vivid detail. I told my client that his father wanted me to know that they had the same nose and he loved to wear white shirts. He confirmed both attributes to be accurate.

My client then wanted to know why his father became withdrawn and despondent after he revealed to him the news that his wife had been diagnosed with cancer. His father said to me that he was distraught that his son might be without a spouse into his old age, and wouldn’t get to enjoy the marital bliss that he did with his wife. And so he dealt with it the best way that he knew how – he became more introspective but the news took a toll on his health which quickly deteriorated. 

Regarding the family dispute that he was facing, my client asked if his father had any message for him on what he should do. His father formed a pyramid with his hands and I conveyed the metaphorical meaning of that gesture. As a learned and intellectual man, his father had a way of communicating using metaphors and symbols. The pyramid represented his legacy – the pinnacle of what he could pass down to the surviving generation – and his father wanted my client to know that he inherited the best of his legacy and that was the real treasure-trove, not the physical assets that the siblings were squabbling over.

The information came as a wave of relief for my client who said he had been troubled by the unhappiness that has been generated by the family dispute which made him question whether he was doing the right thing. His father’s message was a major reassurance that he was honouring his father’s legacy and last wishes. It brought further relief for him to know that his wife’s health condition was a test in his spiritual journey, and she would turn the corner and recover from this.

The second client also sought closure with his deceased mother. He didn’t have a chance for last words with her as she passed away in solitude. I detected the cause of her death – gastro-intestinal and a poor diet – which he confirmed.

And his mother appeared to me with her hair tied back and wearing a dark-coloured sari. I asked to see a photo of his mother after informing him about her appearance, and I received the affirmation that I was looking for. She always wore her hair that way. Interestingly, my client wanted to know what colour was her sari and she revealed chocolate and a dark shade as the colours of her attire. My client was pleasantly surprised because he had buried her in her favourite sari which was black with a chocolate lining, and it reassured him to know that she came to the reading donning that attire because he had received flak and disapproval from his relatives from dressing her in dark colours for her funeral.

After determining the veracity of her identity, my client was very keen to know what messages she had for him. The prevalent sentiment that I felt was her immense sense of regret. She regretted the fact that she did not have a chance to say goodbye to her dear ones because she died alone. She regretted the fact that there was no closure for herself at the point of passing. 

She was also saddened by the feud that is taking place between my client and his brother, and that was when the plot thickened. Apparently, while she was alive, her other son was adamant that she lived with him in her own home. Upon her death, my client discovered that she had left her property to his brother in her will. And when confronted, my client’s brother was agitated and refused to speak to him, claiming that he was angry with him.

The message from my client’s mother on this point was clear: ask the lawyer who drafted the will for a copy and scrutinise the fine print.
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As a spiritual practitioner who helps my clients to communicate with their departed loved ones, it was very illuminating for me to be able to make connection with those two spirits who had only recently crossed over and who were coming forward to a mediumship session for the first time since their passing. And it brought me great joy to be able to serve as a bridge and communication channel for their final conversations with their deceased parents, and to help them – children and parents in this and the other realm – to achieve the closure that they never had. 
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